We're not stopping in Ladysmith?

One thing I knew about South Africa was the music of Ladysmith Black Mambazo, though I reluctantly admit that I thought the group was from "Africa."

Ladysmith (a city, like Harrismith) was on our route, and as we passed it, I asked if we weren't stopping. Ronda (driving) said no, and I realized that the moment we are passing the exit for a city or lookout or some other attraction is not the time to tell the driver that I had wanted to go there.

If you are traveling with friends or family members, it's important to communicate expectations, changes, and disappointments. Communicating disappointments is difficult, and I've learned (in the distant past) that demanding an explanation or apology from the driver while flying down the freeway is not a good idea. I truly was disappointed that we missed our only chance to meet Ladysmith's famous musicians, but I hadn't done my part by getting it on the agenda much earlier. The breakfast table would have been a good place for that suggestion. Ronda would have told me that she was pretty sure that the group, if still together, was not booked for a luncheon concert at the Ladysmith KFC where we might be eating.

Communication is almost as important as transportation: there are several ways to reach a destination, but some are more comfortable than others.